Every one who has eyes to see, can see it.

Emotional issues all over the place, just like the rest of us have had or have. There are simply some of us who are endeavoring to grow out of them while others of us continue to whine like big babies.

As you continue to avoid the issue of your own emotions being YOURS in the 1st place, I acknowledge and Respect your choice to continue being a Victim of your own Denials. The Needy choosing to stay needy. While I respect the choice, I will not support it, nor encourage it, nor feed it in any way. I’m *not* an enabler. You have a Will, then claim Responsibility and Accountability for it. It is by your Will that EVERY single decision and choice you make is fueled by FEAR. It is by choice that we are FEAR-filled. All I am saying is ‘go ahead and be that way then. it’s you that has to live with it; it’s your issues, NOT mine.”

And what you don’t like, is that I don’t feel “bad” or “guilty” in any way for honestly expressing it nor in my complete refusal in claiming any responsibility for it or its consequences. For it is claiming the responsibility and consequences of it, that you seek to shift to the shoulders of others, rather then dealing with your own issues.

I do say, refusing to claim those issues is an excellent way to continue avoiding dealing with them.

You come seeking validation and I deny giving you any.

Such expressions of emotional insecurity and emotional dependencies as you keep expressing are indicative of a LACK of Integration and not it’s achievement. And I refuse to support or encourage or feed in ANY way, self deceit and hypocrisy.

Until such time as we claim Responsibility for being emotionally needy, we will continue to be so. Until such time as any person is ready and willing to claim such Responsibility and Authority in their own life, I’m expressing the attitude of ” *Screw* your emotional needs, starting with your need for validation. I grant no ‘entitlements’ or licenses with my life.”

And as far as any of the choices of how we express our inner character of neediness, intimately, I don’t care if individuals want to express that neediness, with any consenting man, woman or donkey for that matter. Need is still need.

It represents and expresses a LACK of Love and not its Essence.

As I said in the post, psychological parasitic relationships are the issue on both sides. The emotional NEED for approval and validation is the same on both sides. It might as well be blue parasites at war with red parasites.

Your Soul’s mate is your own Spirit not someone outside of you. Another dependency issue. Your current mate may very well be a reflection of your Soul’s/Spirit’s love for you but to believe what you believe, simply makes it a karmic relationship. One of bondage and emotional dependency.

And yes, I IGNORE other people’s dependency issues, out of Respect for Individual choice. Emotional dependents seek to remain dependents most of the time. It’s easier to BLAME others for not fulfilling our need for approval and validation, then it is for us to claim responsibility and accountability for those emotional needs in the 1st place.

I address the causes of our needs, so we won’t be needy in the 1st place. So we won’t seek to base our relationships on who gets to suck from whom, when it comes to approval and validation. In my analogy of blue and red parasites, if I’m not a parasite and don’t especially like the feeding off of other people’s life energy, then I simply stay out of the fight unless to council how to end the fighting.

I stand behind a short wall and guide that the only winning move is to choose NOT to be a parasite in the first place.

To be an emotional dependent means that neither Responsibility nor Accountability for the use of Will and Freedom of choice, is being claimed. That is not “liberty” it is ‘license” and is not Constitutionally supported. I grant no licenses with the use of my life’s energy to others. I am Sovereign over my own.

The Soul-u-tion is to address the causes of emotional dependency patterns and CEASE & DESIST in making demands of others. Become emPOWERED. Both the opponents and proponents are seeking VALIDATION from Society.

Proponents seek VALIDATION from others for their chosen lifestyles. And opponents seek VALIDATION from others for their chosen lifestyle.

And whenever either side doesn’t get that VALIDATION, then they act up. claiming to be victims of the other sides lack of something.

Lack is what is being expressed on both sides and that’s what’s make either side a mirror of the other. Both sides make a perfect match. The rocks in one sides head fit the holes in the other side’s head.

Gay people especially, do not need to look for approval. For they are the ones embodying our updated and evolved dna. The *new* human being is balanced and complete within ourselves. So are free to choose where we will and how we will, when it comes to expressing ourselves, intimately or not.

It is our inner nature that matters, not our outer one.

Once we shift our Values to qualities and substance of character, rather then material and superficial appearances, all conflict stops, both inner and outer.

It is not a ‘good’ time to be a psychological dependent with issues of “security” and “authority”. In case you haven’t noticed, it is a major issue with quite a few people across our world right now, for various reasons, but the one main issue the same. Issues of “security” and “authority”. In bed with issues of “Responsibility” and “Accountability”.

Claiming Responsibility for our OWN emotions and Accountability for WHAT they may be, becomes easier as other people won’t have anything to do with taking the ‘blame’ for them.

But you are ignoring what too many people have to deal with on a daily basis – the practical application of society to their lives. And for fairness in that – I believe we must work.

Please don’t feel that you have to keep explaining yourself. I understand. I live a life of tolerance, understanding and compassion. You don’t know me, so I’d much appreciate you not assuming that I require validation by the law, or that I am a sheep.

I will continue to fight for the laws in our land to be fair and to be applied equitably, because the laws represent what we as a culture deem most important. The laws are necessary to manage those (most of us) who have not reached the same plateau of understanding as you have. We have to keep trying – I want to see the culture evolve, just as you believe you have evolved above others.

We are what we communicate. What you are communicating here is not so much compassion as a feeling of great superiority. I commend you for reaching such heights, but please, be patient with us who are still evolving.

Your a {sheep}, surrendering the Authority over your own Life.

I quite frankly find it absurd, that any one of us could be so naive as to believe in the Just-ness of any of our laws or any of our forms of government.

THAT kind of thinking is what got us into the messes we’re in now.

It’s IGNORANCE that is putting up the fight, so don’t be equally IGNORANT in trying to talk Reason. The reason idiots ARE idiots, is because they’ve divorced themselves from reason, so it’s useless to try communicating in it.

Use Wisdom instead.

Go buy a Business License, in the name of a Business Partnership. Said business “Investors in real estate”. Then buy life and health insurance for both partners, as well as the required business bonds and insurance for that type of business according to state and local law.

As far are not taking off work, screw work and choose what is of most importance. Besides, under said company, income in said company could show a profit, depending upon how much each partner invested minus expenses for maintaining a home office.

Profits could then be invested in a business organization (non-profit). In charge of of a kind of ‘half way house’ for children that have been abused and run away, for their sexual tendencies. A type of “foster home” helping to build self acceptance and self respect.

There are other ways to experience expressing our parenting and experiencing what it is like to be a parent without having to birth another. Children who feel neglected are all over the world.

Other then that, I say you’re looking at it from an emotional need for Society to Validate people. As for me, I already know Society doesn’t think at all, so I really don’t care what the brainless mass comes up with.

I happen to Value such qualities as Truth and Honesty. That means I’m going to be a real person and charge whether or not people can cope with me and what I have to say, as THEIR “issue”.

My feelings are mine and yours are your and his are his etc. I am in charge of the peptide production of my hypothalumus and YOU are in charge of the peptide production of yours. WHAT other people think and HOW other people feel is THEIR issue and Responsibility, not mine.

I find cries for validation in the form of demands and entitlements to be abhorrent. So we’re needy, what else is new? How about addressing the causes of WHY we’re so needy, so incompetent and LACKING when it comes to our ability to be self nurturing. So lacking in substance of character and dependent upon illusions and appearances of it.

The responsibility for being emotionally needy belongs with the one of us who is.

Monkey is NOT placed on my back for LACKS in genuine substance and fiber of character. Namely the qualities of Acceptance, Tolerance, Understanding and Compassion. If we don’t have it, we can’t extend it. And we have to give it to ourselves before we can “have” it. And NO amount of “getting” will ever be a replacement for it.

I quote from an ancient art of Chinese warfare. The first thing you do is disarm your opponent.

After living for decades in the Bible Belt and being hit over the head with it by Bible-thumpers, I short-circuited their power instantly, as well as dissolved the realities right out from under them, simply by living the code they were only pretending to live. I based my claims on the same book and used it as the foundation of my beliefs.

I became disarming.

All it takes to disarm ignorance is intelligence and illumination.

But quantum physics doesn’t rule (I know, you’ll argue) the laws of our land. Or, I should say, the general public and upholders of law do not recognize that quantum physics rules the laws of our land. Picking up and moving is simply not possible for everyone. For a million different reasons, a gay couple might be unable to move away from their current home at this time – but if one of them gets sick and needs his/her partner to step in as a legal spouse and navigate the medical realm, insurance, etc., you better believe all the quantum physics in the universe aren’t going to help at that moment.

No amount of belief in your own love and authority will give you access to what law will not allow – you can’t grant yourself access the law is withholding from you. On another plane, maybe. But in this world, in the immediate, practicality has to be acknowledged.

As I said, I wish everyone believed as you do. In the meantime, I will teach my children that if a rule or a law is wrong or unfair, fight to change it. Don’t just KNOW that it is wrong and behave accordingly – because others who don’t have your strength of spirit might need you to be fighting on their behalf.

I really do *wish* it were but a “theory”. But as I said, *wish*, this would be an irrational desire for me, contradicting everything I *KNOW* and Quantum Physics supports.

I have no emotional need for Validation. Which is at the crux of all the matters mentioned.

Whenever we are starting from a state of emotional insecurity and I remind us that “security” itself is an EMOTIONAL experience, we are only fooling ourselves with ideas any so called “authority” we find outside of us, is going to make up for our lack in self nurturing skills.

For it is our lack of these emotional and psychological skills, that is the cause at the root of our emotional insecurity issues.

The fact that Quantum Physics is now PROVING that we do indeed attract experiences to us, then it is to our benefit to come to an understanding of our inner workings. For we really do “reap as we sow.”

If I radiate a magnetic field of “this is wrong and this is unjust”, then I’m going to reflect back to me people who are saying “this is *wrong* and this is *unjust*. Rather then say “wrong”, say “Ignorant” from an attitude of understanding and compassion for we are all ignorant in some, way, shape or form. rejection and attitudes of judgment and condemnation are attitudes of rejection judgment and condemnation.

I cringe at simply your use of the word “authority” because it means that we have surrendered our own.

And our own Power over realty with it. Boohoo “poor victims”.

If I have chosen to surrender the authority of my own mind and emotions, then I’m only a victim of my own self denial. Claiming Sovereignty over the contents of my own heart and mind, I reclaim the Power of Creating my own Reality.

Certainly, religious codes of dogma, having been founded on LACK of Love for ourselves, are the kinds of beliefs that do us no benefit. But whether or not the belief has been painted with a ‘religious’ label, the belief in Loving ourselves only conditionally is within us all.

It is a pattern of thought. The pattern of Love ONLY upon Condition.

And if ourselves and our daughter’s were not already programmed in it, just as we have been, then our daughter’s wouldn’t be all caught up in EMOTIONALLY ‘needing’ any other person’ agreement or not.

If gay people did not have their own Doubts and Judgments about themselves as the rest of us do, then this Doubt of Worth and Recognition of it, wouldn’t be what is being reflected back.

We all have these issues, simply because we have all been programmed in a belief pattern of Conditional Love. This group has *this* set of conditions and *that* group has *that* set of condition.

WHAT set of conditions doesn’t matter. Simply being Conditional is what sets up all our emotional insecurity issues involving needs for validation, self worth, self esteem and self respect.

As I started out saying, others of us are welcome to use the word “theory” but what I am quoting is a LAW.

Universal LAW.

And it doesn’t matter that we’ve been living in ignorance and denial of it. It’s still been working in our lives all through them.

The solution is simple. Move. If the city, county and state laws supports ignorance and *assholes*, then move to a place where the people are different, expressing different attitudes and different values.

It’s why I Love Washington so much. It’s the state that ranks LEAST for “churchgoers”. Almost 2/3′rds in the State, AREN’T “churchgoers” but 9 out of 10 believe in some version of a ‘God’. And it had recognized the rights of women to vote as a Territory, far ahead of National Suffrage.

Allow Attrition to do its work in areas of Dinosaurs. I give these kinds of Ignorant and unloving attitudes of Ignorance waving a banner of Self Righteousness, at MOST, another 25 years.

*winking* My 14 year old just found out I voted against the ERA when it came up for a vote in Texas. She went livid. And this is what I told her:

On my office wall hung a saying…

A woman has to work twice as hard as a man
To be recognized as half as good.
Fortunately, it isn’t difficult.

Notice my attitude?

No state should have the authority to tell anyone who they can or cannot love. But states (or various legal entities) do have the authority to mandate who receives insurance or death benefits, who can live on a piece of property together, who can adopt together – many of the “rights” that we heterosexuals take completely for granted.

It is the ACCESS to the legal protection of a spouse/co-parent that gay marriage proponents want, not the validation of their love for one another.

On a side note, I am the mother of an almost-14 yr. old, and I have to say, while some days the drama knocks the wind out of me, I do adore listening to her passion for social justice. I hope that part of her enthusiasm lasts a lifetime!

Best to you and yours -

{{{{{hugs}}}}

Most of us do NOT realize that our economic growth fueled by credit consumption has had an effect of DRAINING the living energy out of people worldwide. Pope Paul II warned us about it.