From {{jon’s}} bog, Jon’s New Age Wanderings:

“Should marriage be abolished?”

Oh boy, what a can of worms!

What if I said that what most of us consider ‘marriage’ is a farce? That it is not a Union; it is a relationship of dependency and extortion. It is a contractual arrangement based on emotional need. And since it is based on need, it is not a Union of Hearts. It is not a Union made ‘by god’. For whatever is joined by God cannot be pulled asunder.

And this statement is True.

My 1st ‘marriage’ was one of these farces. Oh sure, we had the license, we had the minister pronounce us joined but we weren’t. When I walked out of it, I walked out saying that trying to change me to suit him meant he had no genuine love or respect for me.

The ‘marriage’ I enjoy now is based on genuine kinship and compatibility. There are NO conditions. My husband *knows* my love is unconditional. I wouldn’t think to limit or control ANY of his choices. The Fidelity we are committed to, is being Faithful to the Presence in our Hearts. As for ‘monogamy’, it is a personal choice. I may choose it for myself but I do not make it a condition that I insist he choose also. (Ladies, you’d be surprised how much allure disappears once the label of ‘forbidden’ is removed.)

We are pillars that stand together willingly, not sticks that lean on each other.

The reason why so many marriages fail these days is because they are actually prisons of bondage. The relationship is not based on Love, which is extended freely without any conditions, but is an arrangement of barter. “I will love you so long as you fulfill the conditions of satisfying my emotional needs but if these needs are not satisfied, I won’t love you any longer. For I really don’t Love you as much as I love how you make me feel.”

These farces that we have been taught are ‘marriages’, have historically been based on property rights and viewing the other person as personal property.

From {{Jon’s}} blog, Jon’s new Age Wanderings:

“the underlying question of course is “on what basis do you make your answer?” For christians, the appeal is to the bible of course. But New Agers don’t have a bible, so who says which answer is right? How do we decide? How do we know?”

It is a matter of Authority and Responsibility. Most notably, not surrendering it to ANY outside authority, for that act itself, is an act of Self Denial. And Responsibility, for doing our own thinking and deciding. We have been given the Gift of Will and we are accountable for how we use it. When we do not claim this accountability, it is the same as saying to Spirit that Life is too much of a responsibility and we don’t want to experience it anymore.

It is essential to realize that Justice is not a matter of “right and wrong”. It is a function of cause and effect. Any and all acts of Self Denial are acts of negating our own lives, of demeaning them. If we plant these seeds, we will reap a harvest of having our desires denied us.

“Knowing” comes from our hearts. There is a whole ‘nother post on knowing:

http://sueannedwards.wordpress.com/knowing/

Most of us don’t even know who we are, especially ‘christians’, for beliefs in ’sin’ are effective tools of emotional manipulation. Who am I/who are you, freed of all fears of Acceptance? You’d be surprised how many things we choose simply due to fears of not being accepted or tolerated, how many things we choose because we’re looking for validation.

The major transition is to a altogether different value system.

The ‘christian’ religions as taught us to be leeches and ticks, for our reality is based of getting other people to believe likewise. It is a relationship of dependency, being dependent upon other people’s choices. This gives rise to controlling behavior, trying to limit choices. Judgments of ‘wrongness’ and ‘condemnation’. These are acts of emotional extortion.

While it may not be complimentary for us to realize what we’ve been doing, ie, negating other people’s lives in order to feed our own reality like a bunch of ticks and leeches, it is necessary if we are to cease our DisRespectful behavior.

A sense of Worth based on other people’s choices and actions is not a GENUINE sense of self worth at all. It is not secure, for it is a relationship of dependency. ONLY a sense of Worth based on ACTUAL substance of character is Real.

This attitude and elected value system brings our focus back to our own self, instead of upon others. We start endeavoring to clean up our own backyards, instead of having to control what other people’s yards look like. We change from preacher to teacher, for we gladly share how we got our yard clean, to those who ask, yet are unconcerned with those that don’t. Since we are no longer dependent, we can allow other people the FREEDOM and LIBERTY to be their own person. There is no longer any contest of wills, any conflict, for we are not trying to overpower and control.

In short, we claim the responsibility for being our own Father and being our own Mother. For making own own decisions and for being self nurturing.

Many ‘christians’ may not like it but I do often ask the question: Too lazy to do our own thinking, huh?

It boils down to choice. For each and every choice, there is a consequence. What I can share after decades of practical experience in associating cause and effect, is to say that when we base our decisions on a gut centered emotion, like fear or doubt, then the consequences will be something unpleasant. When we base our choices from the perspective of being a puny human, the consequences will be something unpleasant. When we base our choices on being ‘a son of man’ the consequences will be something unpleasant. When we base our choices on conditional love the consequences will be something unpleasant. When we base our choices on being needy the consequences will be something unpleasant.

Choose based on the perspective of being a ’son of god’ and for *knowing*, listen to the Voice in our own Hearts. For our paths are varied and different. What is a loving choice for one person may not be for another.

To Our OWN Hearts be True.

(not our guts)

Question #2 from Jon’s New Age Wanderings:

“Is watching porn OK?”

…if you can’t partake, then I guess watching is about as fun as it’s gonna’ get.

I’m going to address the excellent questions {{jon}} has posed on his blog, Jon’s New Age Wanderings, “here”.

Question #1, “Is abortion OK and if not, why not?”

I really laid into one little lady who called looking for donations for her cause, which happened to be this one.

I pounded her into the ground, ROYALLY, for her presumptuousness in phrasing the question, “are you for abortion or are you pro life?” I mean it; I let her have it. I psychologically gutted her from the inside out, without one feeling of regret or remorse. And would do it again in a heartbeat. I refuse to feed such deceit as she was pandering and begging for my help to support. When I hung up on her, she was in tears and I was thinking ‘good riddance’.

“Pro-life my ass”, I thought, “she didn’t even so much as express any respect for it.”

It may be helpful if I shared that there is a BIG difference between our dust and the Life which animates it. A lot of blathering from bleeding hearts could be avoided if we distinguished Life, from the form it takes. Birth/death have NOTHING to do with Life except for being experiences of it.

If our Soul becomes unable to express itself through one “body” of form, either due to dissolution of the form or due to personality blocking it, it will find another form to express Itself through.

In short, I found the young lady’s attitude and understanding to be that of valuing and giving more meaning to dust, then to the Life that animates the dust. Where she imagined herself to be serving Love of Life, she is actually serving fear of death. So simply the phrasing of her question indicated she was coming from a place of self deceit. And it was just her plain *luck* that she called me, right in the middle of when I was cooking dinner.

The question of abortion is an individual decision, a choice made by the woman who is pregnant. It’s known as Liberty. And like I said to the little lady, “You have NO RIGHT to infringe upon anyone else’s Liberty, just because you’ve got emotional problems dealing with it. No one granted you a mortgage on their life. How DARE you think to suck the Liberty from others people’s lives in order to feed your own reality and then blather on about ‘love’ at the same time? ”

For factors in making this decision, let’s look at the depravity of our Society.

Why does the word “bastard” even exist?

Not all cultures see children in this same Light. And because of this, “Motherhood” is revered and supported.

LIKE IT ISN’T IN OURS.

There is a story about a man who, long centuries ago, had a habit of coming before the King everyday with much gossip about what was wrong in the Kingdom – with this person and that person.  One day the King determined to cure the man of his habits and gave him a cup of brew, filled right up to the brim of the cup.  The King gave the man the cup early one morning, telling him to bring it back that night, having carried it all the day through, without spilling one drop.  If any of the precious brew were spilled, the man would forfeit his life.

The man did as directed and joyfully returned to the King that night, his cup and contents intact.  He did not spill a single drop.  Said the King to the man, “What was wrong in the Kingdom today?   You have not reported a single distress.”

“Sire, I was so occupied with watching my own cup and making sure none of its precious content was spilled, that I really didn’t see anything wrong anywhere, the whole day through.” the man said.

Taking the time to be responsible for our own thoughts and feelings, trying to bring more *perfection* into our lives,  leaves little time left for observing *imperfections* of others. 

Just maybe all those *imperfections* we see are there for a purpose:  for the purpose of providing us with opportunties to create substance of Tolerance, Acceptance and Understanding within our characters?   To extend Love to that which has been denied it?