I read a meditation the other day that turned my blood cold. I knew at the time the author had no understanding of what they were encouraging, otherwise, they wouldn’t have been doing it. Their heart was genuine and their intention pure.
It began with a visualization of imagining the bonds we have with our families, then imagining extending those bonds to include everyone else in the World. “Better not try this with me,” I thought. “ It has all the attraction of diving into a pool of piranhas. No thank you.”
I thought this, because quite frankly, I don’t find the attitude of being made into fodder for other people, to be a very Respectful, much less a Loving perspective of the Value of my Life.
For get it.
Any family that believes it ‘OK’ for any member of it, to ‘sacrifice’ their life, their pleasures, their joys and their dreams, for the sake of other members, isn’t any kind of family I care to be considered a part of.
For get it.
Let’s have the Courage of Heart to be Honest. Most of Us were raised in totally dysfunctional families. And if we think our family doesn’t fall under this category, then we’re lying to ourselves. Think the attachments we have with our family’s are bonds of Love? Well, think again.Think about how many people in our families we’d even be friends with, if we weren’t related. That’s how many family members we have bonds of ‘love’ with.
The rest, are ties that try to bind, out of guilt and obligation. They are ‘karmic’ bonds. If we could all see these karmic bonds, we could see they are ugly in the extreme. Green-black in color, slimy, oozy and putrid. They are bonds of our slavery, that all of us who worship ‘need’ are required to accept as proof of our piety.
The very last thing I’d seek to do, is create the same ties and bonds with the rest of the World, as I experienced growing up with those who have called themselves my ‘family’. I only consider ‘family’ those I relate to on a heart level. The very last thing I respond to, are calls of ‘obligation’. For I’m not ‘obligated’ to share my self with anyone.
If people act repulsive, there’s nothing ‘wrong’ with being repulsed. It’s a simple action of cause and effect. Negative means to negate, to repulse. Repulse what? Repulse Love. Why do we imagine negative people are always crying out they need attention? Because the water of Life cannot flow through pipes that are clogged. What a lot of our ‘families’ teach, is to override this natural law, deny ourselves and live without Integrity of being, because of the use of guilt and ideas of servitude to the group.
To transcend ‘karma’, means to dissolve it, not feed it. I’ve happened to notice how many parents whine about not being remembered by their children, blaming their children. Well…not being remembered is the natural result of choosing to be an unmemorable person. It’s not our kids fault if we’re not the kind of parent that’s worth remembering. If we haven’t been Lovable, then we have no claims to being loved, for one, is the result of the other. Being an emotionally insecure and needy parent, is not the same as being a Loving one. Just as raising an emotionally needy child, is not the same as raising a Loving child.
That’s why I am recommending this ‘idea’. IMAGINE yourself floating in the air. Now imagine you can see all the cords indicating all the relationships you have in your life. Have the Courage to ‘see’ them as they are. They are cords of fear. Cords of doubt. Cords of need. They are ties whose purpose is to bind. To limit. They appear greenish black, sometimes going towards having a grey cast to them, too. They’re also slimy, like ooze and, foul smelling.
Now IMAGINE a sword of Blue, symbolizing the Essence and Power of Faith and, cut all the karmic bonds attached to you. IMMEDIATELY in their place, IMAGINE cords of Love, cords of Light, extending out from you to them, instead. Those who genuinely and willingly choose to have a relationship with you based on mutual respect and loving cooperation will continue to be a part of your life, while those who are only comfortable with bonds of neediness, will depart from it.
But first, within 24-48 hours of doing this in your imagination, you will hear from everyone in your life that has had one of these ‘karmic bonds of neediness’ with you. They will have felt the tie that binds you to them severed, but know not, nor understand not, what they have sensed. They will simply seek contact with you, for the purpose of energetically re-establishing the karmic bond.
Be Aware and Be Compassionate. But also be Empowered. It Truly isn’t Loving to keep each other in bondage. Nor does enabling our emotional dependency patterns do anything towards promoting the development of any kind of Spiritual growth. Stepping into a Life where the people in it, are in it because they truly and Genuinely love Us, because we’re us, is simply a dream a lot of us have never allowed ourselves to dream.
Be wary of any and all relationships where people in it, feed off of each other. Any use of force, whether physically applied, mentally applied through the use of intellectual intimidation or emotionally applied through the use of guilt and blame, are all symptoms of this type of relating.
These are relationships of need, of emotional dependency, where each person in the relationship, has subconsciously agreed to enable the dependency patterns and emotional addictions of the other(s). Each has agreed, subconsciously, to strive to keep the other(s) as emotionally and mentally needy as we possibly can, as well as, work at maintaining each others false pride and delusions of power, value and worth.
“You support my reality and I’ll support yours”, is only a valid reason for a relationship, among those of us whose reality needs to be supported by others.
Like sticks in a teepee. You support me and I’ll support you. Since mutual support is what holds up the teepee, on behalf of that teepee and in the name of that teepee, every stick is controlled. Every stick has to agree to ‘follow the rules’, what ever rules they may be. One move ‘out of line’ by any stick, upsets the whole bunch leaning on them. And most of us grew up in teepee families.
One thing I’ve noticed about teepees, is that they don’t have any elevators.
What do I mean by ‘elevators’? What do I mean about teepees?
What hat did I pop this rabbit out of?
Well…what I’m attempting to convey is that we all have elevators, that are free to move to any level of our being. Our elevator is our focus. Where we view our life from. Our perspective.
If we have a physical body, then our building has a ground floor. If we have emotions and thoughts, then we have a mezzanine or an astral body. When we’re living life as a stick, our elevators are only transversing the ground floor, the mezzanine and, the basement. These are the only levels we can access. Because in order for our elevator to access the higher floors, the higher levels, the more expanded levels of our being, we have to be able to stand on our own.
I can say it pictorially through the capital letter “I”. Notice it looks like a pillar? Notice that it stands on its own? “I”t stands in Integrity: As Above, So Below.
A lot of us don’t even recognize that we have an elevator, much less know that there are other levels of being. We live from our personality level, totally detached, disconnected and maybe even in denial of, our other levels. That’s what I mean by saying “our elevators aren’t going all the way to the top”. It’s the same as if I said some of us are houses but nobody’s home.
I can convey this pictorially through the lower case letter “i”. This is us, we’re the stick and our Soul, our Spirit, is something we imagine to be separate from us, floating around somewhere, usually above us. A little “i” sounds like an “I” but, isn’t. It’s a stick and a dot.
Stick and a dot, stick and a dot
Being separate, a big I we’re not.
Most of us were raised to be little i’s. We came from ‘families’ of little i’s. We relate as a little i to other little i’s.
But this kind of pattern is not at all attractive to big I’s.
So you see, why I share to imagine some other basis besides need and bondage to serving it and guilt, as the foundation of the way we chose to imagine relating to one another. I’m an “I”. I put quite a deal of time and energy into growing up, into building a bridge to connect my dot.
I don’t encourage nor support, leaning. The World is a big place with a lot of us in it. In order to uplift us, ALL of us, we have to at least be able to lift our own weight.
It’s going to take us cooperating together from stable bases of power, in order for us to provide the perspective of and the fuel for, our elevation.
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