I truly admire the Courage and the Bravery of so many of us, who have waited ’til now to address these issues. I was a wimp. I knew I couldn’t take the inner pressures of holding on to my issues this long.

What we see in our World now, are the results of all these unresolved issues coming out. All our skeletons are coming out of our closets to be dealt with.

As for the child in this story, the child was 19 at the time and, has had me teaching by example how NOT TO SURRENDER HIS POWER over reality since he was born.

He was born deaf and fell behind in his communications skills until his hearing was rectified. I obtained a teaching certificate to teach him at home, according to his own pace, then he transitioned into public schools, ending up the youngest in all his classes.

He walked his path of mastery as a child, starting at age 9. He’s currently in Bellingham studying robotics, which has been his soul’s passion since he was 4. Btw…it was with this son that I went to see ‘Star Wars’ at the midnight showing. It was one of our mother and son outings we’ll remember for the rest of our lives.

I understand our confusion when it comes to our Intuition. Clarity is called for because of the dust our emotional dependency patterns kick up.

Our Intuition will NOT have any tinge of fear or doubt to it. It will be coming from our Heart, not our gut.

You’ve mentioned one of our patterns: When someone says something we don’t like or don’t want to hear. Something less than supportive of whatever reality it is we’re sharing.

Any inner ‘zings’ or ‘flags’ experienced under these circumstances, are for the purpose of communicating to us,a reminder, not to surrender our power.

If the other person is saying things that are not true, that we know are not true, then of all things, don’t give whatever is said, any power of Truth. If you know it’s not true, then don’t treat it as if it were. Be ‘OK’ with the other person being delusional, knowing if you don’t give what is said any power, it doesn’t have any. Treating it as if it does, gives it power. Your power.

Don’t give away your power to those who are in denial of theirs.

If we feel threatened by something someone says, then this is a sure sign we’re caught in one of our emotional dependency patterns. It’s a signal whatever perspective we’re coming from, is one of self denial.

There’s nothing ‘wrong’ or ‘bad’ about choosing self denial. It’s simply that the results of making such choices are less then pleasant.

I cite our President as a prime example. I’ve known from the very beginning there was no Truth to whatever he’s been expressing. None. Zilch. Zero.

How did I know?

Because he’s completely dependent upon getting other people to agree with him and, acts like an emotionally self indulgent brat when this agreement is not forthcoming.

His pattern of conduct is to then force or coerce this agreement through using emotional manipulation…blaming other people for why he feels the way he feels. Calling people ugly names, whining about not getting support.

The man has been honest about being a neurotic all along. He’s only been expressing that he’s insecure for at least the past 8 years but, all his cries and pleas for psychological help and therapy have gone ignored.

Why?

Because most of us in this nation are just as insecure and in need of psychological counseling as the person we chose to represent us. But we’re in full blown denial about it, not claiming any responsiblity or accountibility for the beliefs weve chosen to believe, that actually create our emotional insecurity issues to begin with.

Your emotions are your own. Just like mine. Whatever emotions we feel, are the result of the ideas and the way those ideas are related together in our minds. Entertain dark thoughts, experience dark feelings. Think dense thoughts, feel dense feelings.

Once we claim Sovereignty over our minds and emotions, then things become clearer. I can feel whatever I wish to feel, all by myself. So can you. So can everybody else.

It is in claiming Sovereingty over our emotions and the subsequent self realizations that come from it, that brings Clarity to what is our Intuition and what is an emotional insecurity issue. It is what also brings us the sense of Freedom and Liberty that we’ve been yearning for.

See, “Living Light – Emotions” for futher discussion about our issues of dependency.

I’ll share an example coming out of left field for you, sharing how things are not always what they seem, by asking the question….

Why does the lack of other people’s coping skills, dictate that I cannot live and express myself as an honest person?

Who dictated other people could demand a mortgage on my life?

Why is my Liberty and Freedom negated because other people aren’t claiming responsiblity for being self governing over their own emotions?

What gives other people the right to demand to drain my life simply because their emotionally insecure?

If the beliefs we’ve chosen to believe, do not provide us with any secure sense of anything, the the solution is to change those beliefs. Not demand the right to suck off other people’s lives, in support of those beliefs.

Another issue you brought to light, was the issue of ‘untrustworthy’. Look to the relationship you have decreed with ‘untrustworthiness’. Have you placed a negative charge on it?

If so, then this negative charge will assuredly bring experiences with ‘untrustworthy’ people into your life, until such time as the negative charge is taken off the issue.

To take the negative charge off the issue, is to attempt Understanding why we lie, why we aren’t Trustworthy. It requires looking deeply into ourselves for the causes of such conduct.

Most often, we lie because whatever we’re seeking to get, we think we won’t get, if we tell the truth. And our feelings of being ‘OK’ are entirely dependent upon the getting.

The joke is on us, really. Because anything that is not backed up by inner substance, has a way of crumbling out from under us. I’ll use the example of the wave of home foreclosures to illustrate.

The privilege of living in a nice house has been obtained through borrowing. See me? Aren’t I a person of worth, I live in this nice house.

Now, is this person’s appearance of worth real?

No, it isn’t. It’s only a facade. If they don’t keep up the monthy payments, this facade of worth has a way of being dissolved right out from under them. This person’s appearance of worth is only an illusion. And they know it.

I’ll share this…if we truly believed we were worthy, then we wouldn’t need to be buying so many placebos of worth and, our entire economy based on credit consumption would collapse.

Which it’s going to anyway. Now that we’ve sold our younger and future generations into slavery to debt. There’s only so far we can blow up a balloon before it pops.

What about the time when we don’t notice any red flags around someone who ends up being untrustworthy? Does that simply mean we had to go through that experience, so the flags were left in storage? Or were the flags missed?

What if flags are raised when they shouldn’t? What if I don’t like what a person has said because it makes me look bad. This is an ego response, and reflects on me, not necessarily them. But, I still have a gut reaction to dislike them or distrust them. It’s not always easy to determine if this is due to my own issues or because they shouldn’t be trusted.

What comes to me now is, our intuition has many flags. The flags come in various colors for various issues. Those ultra dangerous, avoid at all cost people would be black flags. Red flags for those that should not be trusted, but are safe enough to interact with in an informal way. Green flag for those who are a good match for you. Perhaps a white flag for an ego issue (since we shoudl surrender our ego hehe). But then, my problem is that I’m color blind! I can see some colors, but have trouble distinguishing other colors.

So you say to trust yourself. But it takes time to build that trust, to learn to understand those signals from the higher self, to learn to distinguish the colors. During that process there can be a lot of mistakes, making it harder to trust. I think this is where I’m at. And I’m not sure how to work on this. Everyone always says to just trust that it will come the more you pay attention. But that’s not much of an answer sometimes!

What’s funny is I have seem improvement. It helps a lot to have a wife who can give you more information. There was a person at our job who I innately didn’t trust. As time went on, Carrie was able to explain why she wasn’t trustworthy. All I knew is that I didn’t trust her. But, when I found out that my intuition was right, I could trust it a lot more. But if I don’t have that validation, it’s hard.

So that’s my thing with trust. I do have to say that your writings are very interesting. I’m going to link back to your blog at the Jedi sites that I’m a part of. Hopefully some people will read and find inspiration.

Thank you for sharing. I feel like the child in this story. I’m amazed at how to cross the river. I can’t imagine coming up with those answers. I’ll have to think about it some more I’m sure.